A Question for readers
This question is prompted by a meeting with my pastor this morning, related to the past few posts here and the events that they speak of. I’d appreciate comments from my regular readers and new readers. Please chime in.
Is it harmful for a church member to post their thoughts and feelings about a church program, even if they are negative?
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Please comment.
Yes …
Yes … I do realize just how poorly worded my question was in the conversation I wrote about yesterday.
I’m not sure why they chose me for a role that requires gifts in interpersonal communication in tense situations. I’ve never had that. Ever. My gifts in that area (if it is a gift) are honesty and directness – often brutal in combination. Interpersonal skills have always been my weakest point (well, that and athletic ability but that rarely comes up these days).
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Why did they think I’d be good at this? Is it too much of a handicap to be a leader in a congregation?
Capital Campaign Follies
As I mentioned, I’m a visit steward for the church’s capital campaign. I was assigned 3 families to visit – ironically all with a church officer.
One of the families didn’t sound like they wanted a visit, and have a good reason not to give to the campaign. I had asked them to get back to me with their availability for next week but if they don’t I completely understand.
Another family had allowed me to schedule a visit for tonight. When I got home I found a message on my answering machine telling me that they were too busy tonight and cancelling – also stating that I could call if I wanted to. So I did.
Her: Hello?
Me: Hello. I got your message about tonight.
Her: I’m sorry, but I’m very busy with stuff tonight. I have a lot of family stuff going on and we’ve already decided not to give to the campaign.
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Her: I RESENT THAT QUESTION. GOOD BYE. Click.
I was honestly trying to determine whether to reschedule of if she’d just like me to go away and not bother her. I wasn’t told in training what to do if someone refuses a visit, but I’d contact the team leader and find out.
Thankfully, the third family will meet with me and tell me that they are going to give to the campaign and have already figured out how much. I’m also able to do that visit right before a meeting coming up because we’re on the same committee. Thank you for being the easy one.
This experience has really turned me off to this campaign and it’s starting to turn me off to the congregation as a whole. Maybe I need to think about finding another church or getting my Sunday mornings back to read the paper and relax. I do a LOT for this church. I don’t need to be put in the position of trying to talk to people who don’t want to talk to me, but aren’t willing to come out and say so.
Malaise
I’m sorry I haven’t written lately. I’ve been busy at work, busy outside work.
I’m also having one of those weeks (heading towards months) where everything is going just a little wrong. Nothing is seriously wrong. Nothing is seriously right. Everything is just a bit off kilter.
Work – as I’ve noted previously, the company is up for sale. Just today I heard two different rumors listing different companies that want to buy us – one possible and one unlikely. The senior management committee that approves IT projects just deferred a decision on a major technology change that we want to make. If they turn that down completely, I probably need to either find a new job or resign myself to being caught in a technical cul-de-sac (like COBOL programmers were 10 years ago).
Home – Home is generally OK. I wish that Carolyn and I shared more common interests – so that we’d end up spending more time together. I don’t want to grow in the wrong direction. Finances are being pinched just like everybody else between tiny raises and huge cost increases in everything else. As I said – pretty much completely OK but with a few signs of wear.
Church – I’m serving as a “Visit Steward” for the capital campaign. I’m getting the feeling from conversations with people that folks are really unhappy with the way that the campaign is being run. Most people agree with the need for funds and support most of the projects involved in the campaign, but there’s a lot of disaffection with how it’s being run. Also, the consultant sent to us by the PC(USA) Church Financial Campaign Service is really turning people off. There has to be some way to let the people in Louisville who sent her to us know what a terrible job she’s doing. We had our campaign visit training this past week. The handout was clearly cludged up from other campaigns and included references to things that we aren’t doing in our campaign (like 2nd and 3rd visits, household information cards, etc). One of the biblical references for stewardship actually came out against giving to the church if you read the next verse. Oh, well. I did make my pledge as required (all visit stewards were told to turn in their pledges as part of the commissioning ceremony yesterday, with less than a week’s notice) and even included a check for the entire amount. As soon as I do my 3 visits with members I’ll be done with the campaign. Here’s the hard part – one of my visits is to a family where one breadwinner is jobless.
“In Deuteronomy we are told to give 10%. Jesus tells the rich man that he should give everything. So the amount that we should pledge is somewhere between 10% and everything.” – no, this wasn’t a joke.
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Youth group is another area that is fine, but still not quite right. We had one youth make a life decision that will greatly negatively impact her choices in the future and it’s hitting me harder than I expected. Our attendance is rather spotty – we see a decent number of youth at each meeting but the list of attendees is different most weeks and we don’t really get to connect with them regularly. As I said – things are mostly OK. Youth Sunday is next week and we really have our act together in advance for a change. I am looking forward to going to Montreat for Week VI this summer.
Then there is the team that I co-chair. At our last meeting I got called a racist – under the theory that any white person is automatically a racist. This was said by a white person to a room full of white people – all of whom are well-intentioned in mind and as far as I can tell in practice when it comes to racial issues. I’m not looking forward to our next meeting two weeks from today.
When it comes to church I’m at a crossroads. I want to either become more involved or less involved. I don’t think continuing my current level of involvement is feasible – it’s gonna have to go up or down in the fall. I’d really like to be more involved, but in a meaningful way in a position where I can help the church change for the future rather than in a “pair of willing hands” way. I don’t mind doing the necessary, but it seems so much of church work is maintaining the old ways rather than working for the new.
Hockey – the Trenton Devils finished 6th out of 7, with the lowest number of wins in the entire history of the franchise. Enough said.
So malaise is the word of the day. Judging from the economy it might be the word of the entire country.
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