Snow Day (sort of)
Today was a snow day – kinda.
Last night and all day today we’ve been getting a mix of sleet and freezing rain totalling about 1 inch (it’s over now).
The local schools all closed. Many local businesses had delayed openings, including the local Air Force base and IRS. My company didn’t even do a delayed opening.
I got to work on time doing 25-45MPH on the highway. It was quite slippery but doable. When I got there I discovered that only 1/3 of the company had bothered to come in. Many co-workers were “working from home”. I hope they enjoyed the Price Is Right.
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Then, at noon, the power failed. Apparently a 30KVa line two blocks over failed. They let us go home about 1:15pm. Of course, those working from home have to continue working. HAH!
Tonight we go to a Trenton Titans hockey game as long as they are still holding it (looks like it, but who knows whether the other team’s bus will make it on time).
Tomorrow I’m taking a planned vacation day for hot water heater replacement. It’s 11 years old and the dip tube has failed (meaning the hot water stays at the bottom of the tank and you only get about 3/4 of a tub worth before it gets cold).
Back to the Future part 2
At this point, I have to give my “Back to the Future” task an incomplete.
Last night’s meeting was nice, but there was minimal interaction with anybody. The program was on Haiti and consisted of a video shot by the Youth Director on a visit to Haiti a few years ago. Later, the pastor of a church in Haiti that our congregation supports came and spoke of his ministry and the situation there (including his being in the US due to death threats). The kids were quiet for the most part and the adults asked most of the questions.
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Another issue that I discovered last night is the time commitment and time with my wife. There might be a conflict there – it depends on how important the youth work is to me. We’ll see.
Back to the Future
This weekend, I go Back to the Future – reliving part of my life. How? I’m helping out with Sr. High Youth Group at church.
Back in my youth (as I’ve said before many times), I was heavily involved in church. Part of that included being probably the most regular member of the Sr. High youth group. My freshman year, I was probably the only one who wasn’t a junior or senior in the group – we didn’t have an Associate Pastor at the time so some of the more recent young adults were running the group. I think we had maybe 4 or 5 people. As I got older, we got a great Associate Pastor who had youth ministry as one of his specialties. We then grew to a solid 8 to 10 by the time I graduated (this in a church that drew about 200 attendees at Sunday services). I enjoyed going every Sunday evening. My parents had it easy – the Associate Pastor’s manse was around the corner from our house so I always had a ride to and from church (or actually to church and from Friendly’s after youth group).
My youth group involvement grew into becoming a deacon, attending the Presbyterian Youth Triennium in 1986, and being a Youth Advisory Delegate to the Synod. One of the most fun weeks of my life happened when I was working at Camp Johnsonburg as a CIT. One summer, I got to be the 3rd counselor in a work camp unit, with my Associate Pastor as a co-counselor and kids from my youth group in the unit. Helping to serve communion (deacons were allowed to do that back then) at Triennium and at work camp were very meaningful for me. This left me sufficient engaged with the church that I headed to college planning to make either religion or computer science my major (with the other my minor).
Then some stuff happened that I’ve written about before and I left the church. However, it was my ties to youth group experiences – particularly camp – that drew me back almost 20 years later.
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So …. this weekend I’ll be volunteering with the CHAOS (Christians Hanging Around On Sundays) Senior High youth group at Lawrenceville Presbyterian Church. Alicia from my church, camp, and who worked with me leading the Reconnecting with Faith retreat (she’s the redhead at the left end of the group photo below) talked to me about getting more involved at church and suggested helping out with this group.
I admit to some fears. While I used to work with youth once upon a time, at the time I more or less WAS a youth. It’s been 20 years, and my youth relational skills are gonna be very rusty. I don’t have any reason to have contact with kids of any age on a regular basis. (I know, be yourself and the kids will respond.) The good news is that the other youth advisors that I know are great people, and I’m sure somebody will be able to backstop me if I falter.
Wish me luck! If it works out, you may see more posts here about this group. If not, well, you’ll probably see an “it didn’t work out” post and that’ll be that.
OK, that’s out of my system
Please excuse the negative posts from the last few days. One of my hot buttons got pushed, and I lashed out a bit.
If I’ve upset or offended you, I’m sorry and please let me know.
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The Dangers of Being a Majority Supporter of a Minority Group
If you’re like me, you’re in a unique minority. I’m white, male, straight, middle-aged, middle-class, live in the suburbs, protestant. I’m a member of every majority group. I AM WHITE BREAD.
Fortunately (or unfortunately), my genetic and environmental background have combined to form a desire for justice in my ethical framework. I want to work hard for a society where personal attributes like gender, age, sexual orientation, religion, ethnic background do not have any effect on how a person is perceived. We have a long way to go, but I really want to help get there.
This has drawn me to support, actively and passively, civil rights groups that I do not belong to. In general this is fulfilling work – I am doing something to help people other than myself (a very Christian activity) and helping to reshape the world into a better place.
Unfortunately, I have found that there are a number of pitfalls to this activity. Recently, I experienced some of them again. My comments on the Washington State “Defense of Marriage Alliance” proposal drew some strong negative comments from members of the gay community, here and on other blogs and forums. This echoed some more personal experiences that I had working even more closely with the Presbyterian gay rights movement about 12-15 years ago.
So, for your edification and to help me get past the pain recently experienced, here are some thoughts on what can go wrong when a member of the majority tries to work on behalf of a minority group. These are generally addressed to the majority person trying to work on behalf of the minority.
1. You will never be a member of the group. Ironically, this can make you a 2nd class citizen in the minority’s community.
Don’t forget this – you are not and will never be a member of the minority (well, with sexual orientation or economic status that’s not strictly true, but you get the idea). Some members of a particular minority are likely to view anyone not of that minority with serious doubt as to their commitment to “the cause”. In some cases, there will never be trust of a non-minority person.
As long as you are willing to toe the party line, you are probably safe from criticism. The minute that you choose to criticize the beliefs or tactics of the minority group (or even one faction of that group) you become open to having your sincerity doubted. You may be attacked for being a 5th-columnist (someone who attacks from within) representing the oppressive majority or a group of such people.
In today’s civil rights movements, an insidious concept has been invented – a pathological fear or hatred of the minority. This is true in some cases – burning a cross on the lawn of a black family shows a tendency to dislike black people. However, this concept of psychological fear or hatred of a group has been turned into a widely-used insult. Nowhere is this clearer than with the gay rights movement. “Homophobia” is the term used to label those who do not believe that homosexuality (or bisexuality or transgender inclinations) is fully acceptable in today’s society. A breakdown of the term itself would lead one to believe that homophobia is talking about fear of homosexuals. (or perhaps fear of homogenized milk?) In actual use it is an insult hurled at those who do not support full societal acceptance of homosexuality.
The problem with this insult is that in many cases the root definition is not true. Most anti-gay people are not afraid of gay people. They do not cringe in fear, crawl under their beds (or into closets?) and lock their door when two men walk down the street holding hands. They have (to some degree and depth) made a personal judgment of the ethics and morals of homosexuality and rejected it. No fear – just a personal decision.
So, back to our intrepid non-minority volunteer. If you choose to openly criticize the beliefs or tactics of the minority group (or often any portion of it), prepare to be labeled with all of the bad attributes of those that you’ve chosen to fight against. You will be seen as “one of them” and not “one of us”. Your words will be devalued. In short, the minority will try to make you feel as held down and victimized as they do.
Even worse – members of the minority itself experience this. One member of the gay rights community talked to me about how any gay person who challenges the tactics of the group gets labeled as “self-loathing”. He’s got his own internal homophobia.
I’m sorry – but this is all BS. It’s just the use of names and labels in an attempt to control that majority volunteer.
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2. Members of the majority will decry you as well.
In order for there to be a civil rights struggle by a minority group, there must be members of the majority to oppress them. (Side note – the oppression might no longer exist, but the fact that it once existed is enough to prolong the cause. Ask a left-handed person.) If you choose to be publicly associated with a minority group, you may draw the ire of members of the majority. If you support minority group Z, you will be labeled as a Z-lover, and probably as a Y-hater. You will be told that you (are you ready for this) have hatred towards your own people – your own self-loathing.
If the majority group has chosen to level morality charges against the minority, you will be open to them as well. For gay rights, your sexuality and sexual behavior may be questioned. You may be a “closeted gay”. In racial conflicts, this used to lead to your ancestry being questioned – that you aren’t as “pure” as you thought.
Paradoxically, this criticism is often easier to take than the criticism from the minority group itself. You are at least pointed in the right direction – you are taking fire from the front – from those that you have chosen to battle in your drive for equality for the minority group. The attacks from the minority group will more often come from behind, forcing you to battle on both fronts at once (and stand sideways, apparently).
3. You will be told that you “can’t understand” what the minority group is going through.
This is true. You truly are unable to feel the day to day pain caused by attacks on you for what you are. You might be part of one minority other than the one that you are speaking of, and in that case your pain is somewhat transferable. If you are a member of more or less every majority – you truly are unable to feel the pain.
HOWEVER, you obviously have a reason to be battling on behalf of the minority. You are expending energy and feeling pain (and joy sometimes) as you work for the cause. These emotions may pale in comparison to what a member of the minority is going through, but you feel them nonetheless.
You are lucky in that you have an escape route – you can simply stop working on behalf of the minority. It’s easy to melt back into the passive center of your majority group. However, this too comes at a cost. In order to stop the pain from your work on behalf of the minority, you must feel a different kind of pain caused by your decision to ignore your ethics and morals. In order to avoid the pain caused by this work, you cause yourself new pain by not being true to yourself (and in some cases, not being true to your religious beliefs). For those altruistic enough to try to help people without helping themselves in the process, turning your back is actually painful – an self-inflicted assault on your soul.
So what do you do?
Majority people helping a minority – remember that you truly cannot feel the pain of the minority. Remember that you are working with wounded people – people who are under attack for being what God made them. They will sometimes react illogically to you and to themselves. Be sensitive, and try to learn as much as you can. Avoid hot buttons.
Minority groups dealing with help from the majority – be patient. Those who want to help you fall into two groups – those who truly care and those who want to appear to care. Members of the latter group will generally fall away over time. The former group are the folks that you want to keep – people who are doing this for no personal gain (other than maybe satisfaction of doing the right thing). Help them understand the pressures that you face. Teach them about your community. And remember that they are unlearning behaviors taught to them by ignorant people – they will come around in time.
All – everybody has the right to their opinion. Sometimes asserting that opinion may cause pain. Sometimes that opinion is right. Sometimes it is wrong. Sometimes it is ignorant. Educate each other. Avoid using the tactics of hate and marginalization on each other. You’re all facing in the same direction trying to accomplish the same goal – don’t confuse each other with the enemy.
Washington State Marriages – Children Required
(My alternate title: The Gay Rights Movement Loses A Supporter Again)
The gay rights folks in Washington State have gone too far. Once again, they have found a way to piss off straight supporters in their bid for gay marriage.
The Washington Defense of Marriage Alliance is proposing a ballot initiative (957) that would:
- Require that heterosexual couples prove that they are able to have children before they can receive a marriage license, and
- Automatically annul any Washington marriage that fails to produce children within 3 years, and
- Require proof that couples married outside of Washington state file proof of procreation within 3 years of their wedding, or be labeled “unrecognized”, and
- Establish a process to prove procreation, and
- Make it a crime for people in an “unrecognized” marriage to receive marriage benefits.
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Carolyn and I have decided not to have children, for reasons that I don’t feel the need to go into here. This would directly affect us if we lived in Washington.
The WDOMA folks clearly recognize that this is absurd. They are hoping that challenges to this law would cause the Washington Supreme Court to overturn their previous ruling.
What this move fails to do is take into account the degree to which gay rights folks can anger their straight supporters. Making my marriage illegal in order to try to make yours legal is not a good strategy. It angers me. I’ve been a strong supporter of gay rights, but if this type of move were to propagate across the country, I would drop that support – because MY marriage would be under attack by those whom I support.
Let’s face it – homosexual people are at most 10% of the population. In order to have laws changed to support gay marriage, the support of a significant portion of the straight population is required. This move – by directly attacking all heterosexuals INCLUDING YOUR SUPPORTERS – is doomed to fail. Worse than that, it will erode the support of the gay rights movement among straight people.
Drop this attempt. You are dangerously close to losing my support. You NEED the support of straight people in order to achieve your agenda.
Help – Environment and Theology
The assignment that I voluntarily took from our church’s Green Team meeting yesterday was as follows:
Dig up the theological basis for environmental stewardship.
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Reconnecting with Faith – Finding Your Home retreat 2007 – How’d it go?
The Reconnecting with Faith – Finding Your Home retreat was a big success this past weekend at Camp Johnsonburg!
We had 10 paying participants, plus 4 staff (and a few other camp folks floating in and out during the weekend). The participants were a very diverse group in several dimensions. We had people from age 20-something to age “I don’t want to guess and be wrong”. We had people in churches, people not in churches, and people looking at alternatives to Christianity. We had some racial diversity. We had theological diversity in that we had folks all along the spectrum from conservative to progressive. Most of us came from a Presbyterian (PCUSA) background, and there were a few Catholics in the group. We had 3 couples, a few singles, and a few married folks whose spouses didn’t attend.
The weather was a bit cold (particularly Friday, though it wasn’t the 4-degree F cold that the camp folks had to put up with before we arrived Friday morning). There was just the right amount of snow on the ground; we got a little each night – just enough to cover the ground but not enough to slow us down. The lake was frozen over except for an oval about 1/3 of the size of the lake. The geese and swans were camped out on the frozen part.
We began the weekend by doing some get-to-know-you games Friday evening, followed by some fellowship and food time. We also outlined the Johnsonburg standard core values of “No Discount” (of yourself or others), “Challenge by Choice” and Permission-Giving. Because some of the participants knew each other outside of the retreat and the knowledge that someone might want to leave their church could be dangerous in the wrong hands, we added a new rule – “What happens at Johnsonburg stays at Johnsonburg”.
Saturday morning, we had a very emotional and uplifting session where each group member was able to tell the story of their faith journey. These stories brought the group even closer together and allowed each to unburden themselves of the reasons that they might be looking to join a church or switch churches or leave the church. A participant said it best: “Mark and I can’t really do justice to the beauty of the stories that were told at the retreat this weekend.”
Saturday afternoon we did some brainstorming: what people wanted in a faith community, what people were looking to avoid in a faith community, and what stumbling blocks were keeping them from making progress in discerning whether or not to join a faith community and if so, which. This session provided some good ideas for each person when they are considering a new faith community.
Saturday afternoon we had some free time. Some of us took a 4-mile hike along the Yellow and Red Trails, while others connected with each other, relaxed, or even napped. The camp canteen was open for a while so that folks could purchase a souvenir of their retreat experience.
Saturday evening, we completed the afternoon activity by brainstorming ideas on how to look for a new church. Use of the Internet, friends, neighbors, coworkers, church visits, church staff and other resources were highlighted. Those who had taken this route before were able to add their own experience to the bounty of ideas.
We then experienced a fascinating lecture – Spirituality 101. In 90 minutes, our retreat’s minister leader went through the breadth of spiritual options in the world, along with the options within Christianity and the historical reasons for the number of denominations that we have. It was amazing – I’ve had full semester religion classes that contained less information than this presentation.
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Later Saturday evening we had food and fellowship again, with S’mores and Banana Boats cooked on the fireplace in the dining hall.
Sunday morning after breakfast (including a wonderful body prayer for grace) we began with Quiet Time. A number of the group ventured out into the cold to walk the camp’s outdoor labyrinth in the quiet stillness of the sunny winter morning.
We followed that with a worship service planned by the retreat participants WITHOUT the aid of the religious professionals. The service was very camp-like and yet still had all of the reverence of a church service.
After worship we concluded with evaluations, lunch, and an invitation to enjoy the camp facilities for the rest of the day.
For this retreat, the people ARE the program. I’d like to thank the folks pictured above for their wonderful contributions. I’d also like to thank all of them for the mutual respect that we all felt – in this era of Christians tearing each other apart we were able to assemble a group from all parts of the spectrum who worked together to help each other while respecting the conscience of each of us.
I’d also like to thank the Johnsonburg staff who helped plan/staff/support the retreat – including Lorelei, Kurt, Alicia, Harry, Josh, Shelly, and everybody else. Additionally, I’d like to thank Dave Myers, who served as our minister-in-residence and all-around expert on things religious.
Based on feedback received, there’s a pretty good chance that we’ll try to do this retreat again. Watch this space or the camp website sometime this fall for more information. As I’ve stated before, any suggestions on how to advertise this retreat to the target audience (particularly those NOT in a church at the moment) would be appreciated.
If you have any questions about this retreat, please feel free to contact Lorelei at the camp or me.
Off for the Weekend
Carolyn and I will be headed up to Camp Johnsonburg for the weekend for the 2nd Reconnecting with Faith – Finding Your Home retreat (which I’ve written about here and here).
We’ve got a good group – about an even split between last year’s group coming back for followup and new folks (including a few new to the camp). Carolyn and I are going up early Friday afternoon to meet with the camp folks and finish the planning, and then the rest of the crowd arrives in the evening. It’ll be COLD (a high of 17F is predicted Friday at camp), but the group will be warm.
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